People who are shamed have to live in the same world as all the rest of us but they have to live in it with the deep-down conviction that they are worthless.The amount of continuous pressure a deeply shamed person feels is immense.
When they are doing well, they think it’s only a matter of time before they are discovered as useless. When they make mistakes, they expect a terrifying degree of anger from the people they disappoint. Every act is a “test” and they are convinced that it’s only a matter of time before they fail completely.
